Post-Separation Counselling

The conclusion of an intimate relationship can significantly impact one’s psychological wellbeing, regardless of the circumstances leading to the separation or divorce. At MSRCC, we assist individuals to navigate the challenges of a separation, in a caring, confidential, non-judgemental and compassionate manner.

Navigating the Complex Emotions of Divorce and Separation:

The end of a relationship triggers a roller-coaster of emotions, as one intimate relationship is often deeply intertwined with one’s identity. Even in troubled marriages or relationships, they provide a sense of purpose and hope. The loss of a relationship, even a troubled one, can lead to confusion, sadness, and frustration. During this period, it is imperative you are able to understand and circumnavigate a variety of emotions, including anger, jealousy, low self-esteem, stress, depression, anxiety, joy, relief and fear.

It is important you allow yourself time to grieve the loss of shared dreams and hopes to enable you to accept the outcome and move forward in a healthy and constructive way. Unfortunately, grief can lead to self-destructive behaviour, and your feelings don’t always represent reality. Acting on impulsive, harmful urges is not conducive to long-term well-being. Therefore, it’s important to be cautious about following your instincts during this challenging time.

At MSRCC we strongly advise you to:

• Distance yourself from your ex-partner, as spending more time together often exacerbates negative emotions and can create confusion for one or both parties.
• Avoid retaliatory actions, which only intensify emotional distress and loss of control.
• Keep yourself engaged in various activities to combat the isolation and withdrawal associated with divorce or separation.
• Prioritise good physical health through exercise, a balanced diet, meditation or prayer, and sufficient sleep. Self-care is a must during this period.
• Recognizing triggers and recurring stressors that can unexpectedly resurface, especially during events like anniversaries, holidays, or when observing your ex-partner’s new relationships. Being aware of these triggers can help you manage your emotional responses.

The Psychological Impact of Divorce and Separation:

The popular notion of depression as a mere chemical imbalance is an oversimplification. Life events, such as separation and divorce, can trigger or exacerbate mental health challenges like anxiety and depression. Seeking counselling is beneficial, especially if you experience severe symptoms, prolonged distress, or thoughts of self-harm.

How MSRCC can help you:

In couple therapy we have a saying, “You will have at least five different marriages in your lifetime, the question is – Will it be to the same person or five different people?” The reason we say this, is because when life events and transitions occur, we are susceptible to relationship breakdown. Understanding and learning about these life-altering events enable us to not repeat them. For many people who separate, gaining insight into how they respond to these events differently can have a big impact on the future of their next intimate relationship. How you think about your situation affects your emotions, behaviours, and, ultimately, your quality of life. At MSRCC our expertly trained therapist will assist you in:

• Developing healthy coping strategies.
• Recognizing patterns in past relationships that could affect future ones.
• Understanding your role in the relationship breakdown, as it’s rarely the fault of only one party.
• Identifying and addressing unhealthy thoughts and feelings.
• Provide best practice research to assist you to co-parent in a constructive and beneficial manner for your children’s well-being, as well as your own.
• Providing a non-judgmental and supportive space.

At MSRCC, we provide specialised therapists with the highest qualifications in relationship therapy, to support you throughout the separation process. A better life awaits you, and our team of skilled relationship therapist is here to guide you toward it. Your well-being, and future relationships deserve the best possible care.